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Overcoming Fear and Anxiety in Horseback Riding

Overcome Fear and Anxiety in Horseback Riding

Fear, anxiety, and concern are common challenges for many horseback riders. Whether you're a novice, experienced, returning rider, or have taken up the sport later in life, these emotions can limit the enjoyment of your time with your horse.

Common Concerns for Riders

  • Fear of getting hurt
  • Worry about what might happen during interactions with the horse
  • Emotional flooding that sabotages your progression

Regardless of the riding discipline (competitive or pleasure), equine enthusiasts often experience negative emotional flooding, such as:

  • Anxiety
  • Anticipation
  • Apprehension
  • Concern
  • Defensiveness
  • Doubt
  • Fear
  • Mistrust
  • Nervousness
  • Panic
  • Self-shaming
  • Worry
  • Unease

These emotions can trigger Trigger Thoughts—the unhelpful beliefs that hinder your clarity before interacting with your horse. Common examples include:

  • Fear of falling or getting hurt
  • Concern over a horse’s behavior, even when the horse is not misbehaving
  • Fixating on past scary experiences
  • Mental exhaustion after a short ride
  • Feeling fearful even when “nothing” has happened
  • General nervousness at the thought of riding

Mind-Set Mayhem™: How Negative Thoughts Affect Your Ride

Your mental triggers often lead to Mind-Set Mayhem™—the counterproductive thoughts that influence passive, reactive, or after-the-fact critique of the horse. This can cause insecurity and defensiveness in both the rider and the horse. These include:

  • Mentally rushing through scenarios to avoid concern
  • Mentally checking out, leaving it to the horse to "handle" situations
  • Bullying yourself to "power through" the ride
  • Fixating on other riders, which heightens concern
  • Self-criticism and self-shaming due to fear

Physical Factors That Contribute to Fear

Past physical experiences with your horse can trigger a domino effect of negative thoughts. These include:

  • Misunderstanding horse behavior: Not recognizing the connection between a horse’s thoughts, emotions, and physical behaviors can cause anticipatory fear.
  • Lack of balance in the saddle: Improper saddle fit or poor body awareness can make you less effective in communicating with your horse, leading to fatigue and miscommunication.
  • Lack of consistent breathing: Shortened breath can create tension and immobility, reducing your ability to stay present and react appropriately during your ride.

How to Change Your Experience with Your Horse

To overcome fear and anxiety, start by recognizing your emotions without self-criticism. Address the root causes of your concerns, not just the symptoms. This includes:

  • Understanding horse behavior: Learn to interpret your horse’s actions without filtering them through your own fears. Trust your horse.
  • Improving communication: Enhance your skills in body awareness, balance, and breathing to communicate more clearly with your horse.
  • Boosting confidence: Shift from reactive thinking to proactive decision-making, allowing you to think through situations rather than just “surviving” the ride.

Start Your Journey Toward an Empowered Equine Partnership

The emotional perceptions you bring to the ride will shape your experience. Build your confidence, reduce stress, and improve communication with your horse by shifting your mindset.

It takes time and intention to make lasting changes, but with a supportive coach, you can succeed. A non-ego-based equine professional can help you raise awareness, challenge negative thought patterns, and replace reactive behaviors with proactive decision-making. Together, we can build the foundation for a strong, respectful, and supportive equine partnership.

I'd love to guide you on your journey, just as I’ve helped hundreds of riders overcome fear and anxiety. Explore my coaching options to get started:

Coaching Options:

  • Mature and Fearful Rider Video Series
  • Intro Consultation: Choose a 15, 30, or 60-minute personal coaching session
  • Empowered Equine Partnership Series: 1-on-1 personal coaching sessions
Start the Mature and Fearful Rider Video Series Book Your Intro Consultation Join the Empowered Equine Partnership Series

Testimonial:

"I can't thank you enough for everything you have taught me... I have learned so much about my horse, myself as a rider, and horsemanship in general from working with you.  I know my horse and I still have a long way to go in our relationship, but after that peaceful "moment" that we shared today, I couldn't stop smiling - Ninja and I are finally headed in the right direction!

Thank you", Lauren, CO


"I have been around horses most of my life and I learned a lot of new skills which I have been practicing in my mental approach when I'm with my horse.  I never prioritized addressing the "me" factor or acknowledging the effect of my thoughts on my horse-handling skills. Seeing the change in how my horse has responded to my 'new' mind-set was incredible. A great balance between self-awareness and clear expectations has allowed me to enjoy being with my horse again. I can't thank you enough for your patience and support." Laurie K. Australia 2020